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Title: Sign up for your child Author: Andrea Cyrus, Msc.D.,
Rev., Mht. E-mail: mailto:andrea@truechanges.com Copyright: ©
2005 by Andrea Cyrus URL:
http://joyfulparenting.truechanges.com/ URL:
http://www.truechanges.com
Word Count: 675 Category: Parenting
When you have your first baby, you may soon also get your first
reality check. You may not really have expected to deal with so
much work, crying, burping, poop, pee-pee, and stress. You
notice you are constantly tired, yearning for some undisturbed
rest. Wave your old days bye-bye, and Sign Up For It. What
no-one ever really told you is that babies like to pee when you
change them, diapers can leak and burping can become a full time
job. Infants love to be up at night and sleep during the day
time; they can cry for apparently no reason and need you exactly
at the time, when it is most inconvenient for you. As these
little angels grow older things do not always become easier,
toddlers may still regularly wake up at night even when they are
2 years old, they will touch and chew on anything within their
reach, and you have to be on consistent alert, knowing that your
lovely baby follows his/her inner drive to restlessly
investigate the new world. There are an infinite number of
expected and unexpected things your little ones will come up
with, and my number 1 concept for Joyful Parenting is to Sign up
for it: I ________________ , hereby declare that I am fully
aware of what to expect of my □ newborn, □ toddler
□ 3-5 year old, □ school kid, □ teenager, and
that I will consciously sign up for the whole package. I sign up
for extended burping, less sleep, more noise, extensive dirt,
broken stuff, dirty clothes, pee, poop, vomit, tantrums, obvious
and not so obvious lies, broken items, stickers on furniture,
scribble scrabble on walls, destroyed furniture, dead frogs,
toys everywhere, posters, muddy shoes and broken windows. I sign
up for having a 1.2 year old telling me NO and a 13 year old
going through my drawers, I sign up for debates, arguments and
very strange excuses. I sign up for tons of why-questions and
discussions that are so confusing and disturbing, that I will
consider hiring a professional. I sign up for holes in my yard
and a stone collection neatly lined up next to my bed, for holes
in brand new pants, in walls, in pillows, carpets and curtains.
I sign up for pages ripped out of my favorite books, chewed up
magazines and the third set of blinds torn. I sign up for
nightly-emergency-room-visits, sleep-overs, and smelly strangers
being invited for dinner. I sign up for spaghetti sauce in the
face, hair, ears, nose, neck, chest, tummy, legs and between the
toes. I sign up for being rudely interrupted during
conversations, sleep, telephone sessions, work, sex, leisure and
meditation. I sign up for runny noses, buggers and tears,
scratching, biting and pushing. I sign up for all of the above
and all the other expected unexpected things my creative
child/ren will present.
To sign up to all these things may seem like a negative approach
to negative behavior by expecting negative things, but if it
were all that negative, the results could not be so positive. We
are not engaging in negativity, we are simply and consciously
saying YES to life. Because life is going to happen; babies
poop, toddlers cut hair, school kids avoid homework, and
teenagers lie. When we have a high resistance to the things that
are unavoidable we will respond with resistance (anger, hurt,
disappointment, feeling overwhelmed, stress, negativity,
impatience etc.) When you accept these things as part of the
deal, you have won half the battle. You will know that what you
are experiencing is normal, you will not be surprised or
stressed out or overwhelmed easily, you know what to expect and
will prepare yourself accordingly, your responses will come from
acceptance and understanding. Sign up for your child, know what
to expect, Child-proof your house, as if you were getting
prepared for a tornado, get ready for the experience of a life
time that lasts about 2 decades, and Take it with Humor.
You just read the first Chapter of the e-book Joyful Parenting.
To read more go to http://joyfulparenting.truechanges.com/